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Social Distancing + Isolation

Social Distancing + Isolation

March 27, 2020

Due to the COVID-19 outbreak, most of us find ourselves stuck at home in self-isolation and practicing social distancing. For some, working from home is normal, for others they’ve lost their jobs and are having to find ways of coping.

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with numerous people in different situations to find out how they are coping with this unsettling situation.

 

About Our Guests

Lisa Driver is a Spiritual Teacher, Author and mother of 2 very young ones living in Medicine Hat, AB. With her husband still having to head out to work, and no daycare available, Lisa finds herself having to juggle entertaining her kids while supporting her clients online. Thankfully due to her work and practice, Lisa has managed to balance find a good balance. She has also become a pillar of support for her community. You can find out more about Lisa and her work at www.lisadriver1111.com.

Clea and Andy are two working professionals living in North Vancouver, BC. On a normal day, they would wake up and make their daily commute to the office. Due to the COVID-19 pandemic, they find themselves navigating working from home in their small 1-bedroom apartment.

Back on Oct 18th, 2019, Jaymie Johnson embarked on a trip of a lifetime. She had planned an open-ended trip to Europe, mainly France. She came back to Canada unexpectedly on March 16th and is currently self-quarantined for two weeks in an AirBnB in Vancouver. She doesn’t have her own place and can’t risk compromising her family and friends.

Peggy Liu is a freelance writer and past podcast guest! Peggy currently lives at home with her family including her parents and siblings. Daily life has become challenging as they all navigate being in the same space 24/7.

Daniel Chai is a Vancouver based actor and writer who finds himself out of work due to COVID-19. With all this time on his hands, he is finding creative ways to engage with his friends and community.

Lou Meggatio is a self-employed professional who is pretty used to working from home alongside her husband Adrian. Between them, they have three kids one of which is a teen who thinks that Christmas has come early because he doesn’t have to go to school or find a job! Make sure to follow Lou over on TikTok! You can also find out more about Lou at www.mandalaessentials.com

Joella Cabalu is an independent filmmaker from Vancouver, BC and currently lives in a house with her partner and 2 housemates. With the requirement from the Canadian Government to stay inside, Joella is tempted to set goals and focus on new projects but wonders if this instead should be a time for self-reflection.

I hope you enjoy this very empowering conversation but as always, there is some adult language, so make sure to pop your headphones on!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Self-Isolation Tips

Here is a list of tips and things to do while in social isolation:

  • Call family + friends either using your phone, FaceTime, Facebook Messenger, Skype or Zoom.
  • Try to stick to a routine, even if it’s a little different from your normal routine.
  • Have a party using Google Hangouts or Zoom with your friends.
  • Go for a walk with family or roommates or on your own if you need space.
  • Host an online trivia night with your friends.
  • Sign up for an online course and learn something new.
  • Take an online fitness or yoga class.
  • Give yourself permission to rest – you don’t have to be productive!
  • Acknowledge that this is difficult – take it one day at a time.
  • Wash your hands!!

If you are feeling sick then please follow the guidelines issued by the World Health Organization: https://www.who.int/emergencies/diseases/novel-coronavirus-2019

If you are struggling to cope and don't have anyone to reach out to then here are some resources that may help:

When to Divorce Your Spouse

When to Divorce Your Spouse

March 12, 2020

Are you in a relationship that is "comfortable" but deep down something doesn't feel right? Do you want to leave your spouse but have been terrified to have the "conversation? Then this episode is for you.

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Dr. Courtney Paré. Courtney, a licenced naturopathic doctor who went through a divorce in 2018. This made her realize how important relationships are to our wellbeing. She then began incorporating relationship coaching into her work.

About Courtney

After 6 years in private practice as a naturopathic doctor specializing in mental health and trauma work, Courtney witnessed the incredible power our core beliefs have over our health, happiness, and dreams, and that in shifting our beliefs we can shift our world.

She began incorporating relationship coaching into the work with her patients after noticing that at the crux of many people’s struggles was the relationship they had with themselves, an intimate partner, or their family of origin.

Courtney empowers motivated individuals to own their worth and desires, and deeply connect with themselves and others through living vulnerably and authentically.

I hope you enjoy this very empowering conversation but as always, there is some adult language, so make sure to pop your headphones on!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

You can catch the video of our conversation click here to head over to our YouTube channel!

 

Resources

Find out more about Courtney and her work over on her website and social media:

www.naturalhealthresourcesrichmond.com

Instagram: @dr_courtney_pare

Facebook: @drcourtneypare

Other Resources:

The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work by Dr. Terri Neil

The Influential Women Podcast by Melanie Tonia-Evans

Cripping Up Sex with Eva

Cripping Up Sex with Eva

February 27, 2020

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Eva Sweeney, creator of Cripping Up Sex with Eva. Eva is a genderqueer disabled female who works primarily as a sex educator and freelance writer. Eva started doing this work when she was a teen and realized that there was no information on how to integrate her sexuality with her disability. 

About Eva

Through her platform Cripping Up Sex With Eva, Eva Sweeney gives classes about sex and disability, topics that are not talked about nearly enough in our society. As a queer teen with cerebral palsy, Eva could not find adequate information about integrating her sexuality with her disability–so she created the information herself. She now has over 15 years of experience giving workshops all over the country about sex and disability. Through Cripping Up Sex With Eva, she continues to do workshops both in-person and online and she has an online store with pre-recorded classes. Additionally, she has two blogs: Cripping Up Reviews, where she reviews sex toys through an accessible lens, and Crip Q’s where she answers anonymous questions about sex and disability.

As always we hope you enjoy this conversation but given the subject, there is some adult content, so make sure to pop your headphones on!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

If you want to watch the video of our conversation click here to head over to our YouTube channel!

Resources

Find our more about Eva and her work over on her website and social media:

www.crippingupsexwitheva.com

Instagram: @crippingupsex

Facebook: @crippingupsexwitheva

Twitter: @crippingupsex

Pinterest

Other Resources:

Online Stores:

Imposter Syndrome

Imposter Syndrome

February 13, 2020

Imposter Syndrome is something that so many of us deal with. Not feeling “good enough” can stop us from pursuing a certain career, standing up for what we believe in, or even doing something fun like erotic dancing!

In this episode, Debbie chats with Erica Courdae, Certified Coach and Entrepreneur. Erica’s work primarily focuses on diversity, equity, and inclusion. She explains her take on Imposter Syndrome and speaks to how the lack of diversity in the media contributes to that deeply rooted feeling of “not being good enough”. 

About Erica

Erica Courdae has dedicated her life to expanding how others interact with the world through powerful conversations. As an entrepreneur + certified coach her work is frequently focused on diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI), imperfect allyship, and imposter syndrome. This work has taken her across the country onto stages and into communities as a key speaker and educator. Erica also has a podcast that features open conversation and dialogue on the topics of her work and more, Pause on the Play. Her support and leadership facilitates engaged conversations within 6 figure communities, international podcasts, and live events to connect people and create change.

As always we hope you enjoy this conversation but there is plenty of adult language, so make sure to pop your headphones on!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

Resources

Find our more about Erica and her work over on her website and social media:

www.ericacourdae.com

Instagram: @ericacourdae

Facebook: @ericacourdae

And don’t miss Erica’s upcoming Ideal Client Workshop where she will help you dig deep and figure out your values!

Subscribe to Erica & India’s podcast Pause on the Play!

Other Resources:

Homesickness + Searching For Identity

Homesickness + Searching For Identity

January 30, 2020

Do you consider your birthplace to be part of your identity? What happens when you move away from that place? Do you lose part of who you are? Or are you recreating your identity? What does it mean to be a settler in Canada?

In this episode, Debbie chats with Victoria Spooner, radio show host, musician and fellow Brit who moved to Canada 7.5 years ago. Victoria struggles with homesickness and trying to figure out her identity.

About Victoria

Victoria Spooner is a communications professional, musician and broadcaster from South London, currently living in Vancouver on unceded, Coast Salish territory. Victoria hosts The Storytelling Show, She-Boom! and Last Orders on Vancouver Co-op Radio. She also makes radio, audio docs, podcasts, songs and the best cup of tea you’ve ever tasted.

Victoria and Debbie explore homesickness and how it is connected to one's sense of identity. As always we hope you enjoy this conversation but there is plenty of adult language, so make sure to pop your headphones on!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

Resources

Find our more about Victoria over on her social media profiles:

Twitter @urban_sorceress

Instagram @urbansorceress

Mix Cloud: www.mixcloud.com/victoriaspooner/

 

Podcasts:

Red Man Laughing with Ryan McMahon

The Adam Buxton Podcast

Sex Education for Parents & Kids

Sex Education for Parents & Kids

January 17, 2020

We all learned about the birds and the bees at some point – at school, on YouTube, from our friends, or *cringe* from THAT TALK with our parents. But maybe talking sex with your parents or kids doesn’t have to be that weird?

In this episode, Debbie chats with Kim Cook, sex educator, nurse, and author of Teen World Confidential, about how parents (and their kids) can normalize conversations about sex, relationships, masturbation, identity, and more!

National Sex Education day is on February 2. Take up the challenge and spend 10 minutes talking to your kids about sex.

About Kim

Kim Cook, the author of Teen World Confidential: Five Minute Topics to Open Conversation about Sex and Relationships, is a Certified Health Education Specialist and a former elementary school nurse. As an educator, she supports parents to have healthy and productive conversations about sex and relationships with their kids. Understanding that parents often need support to get the conversations started, she has initiated the National Sex Education Day campaign, which encourages parents to spend just ten minutes engaging in age-appropriate conversations with their children on February 2nd.

This is a fun and educational conversation. However, if you don't want to talk about sex with your kids just yet, then you might want to pop your headphones on! 

Resources

Find our more about Kim over on her websites and social media:

www.teenworldconfidential.com

www.nationalsexeducationday.com

Twitter @twconfidential

Instagram @twconfidential

Books:

Teen World Confidential: Five Minute Topics to Open Conversation About Sex and Relationships by Kim T. Cook

Condom Nation: The U.S. Government’s Sex Education Campaign from World War I to the Internet by Alexandra M. Lord

Podcasts:

Websites:

Check out the resources page on Kim’s website for a list of resources as well as some great videos!! 

Trans Death Care

Trans Death Care

December 19, 2019

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Toni King-Rose, an advocator for Transgender Rights within funeral and death care services and offers peer support for Trans people working in the death care industry. 

About Toni:

Toni is a 20-year-old, male-identifying, openly transgender funeral student currently going through an accredited Canadian mortuary Program. He works part-time at an independent retirement living complex as a housekeeper and friend and volunteers with Dying With Dignity Canada. Toni believes that it’s never too early in life to start talking about your own death and about the deaths of others.  And how all genders need to be involved in the conversations.

I hope that you enjoy our conversation but as always, do note that there is some adult content, so when listening, it’s best to pop on those headphones!

 

Resources

Make sure to follow Toni over on his social media sites:

Twitter @transdeathcare

Instagram @transdeathcare

WillowEOL – www.willoweol.com
Check out their interview with Debbie here.

BC Funeral Association

Trans Doe Task Force

GLAAD – GLAAD tackles tough issues to shape the narrative and provoke dialogue that leads to cultural change.

Trans Pulse Canada – a community-based survey of the health and well-being of trans and non-binary people in Canada.

 

Money 101 for Entrepreneurs

Money 101 for Entrepreneurs

December 5, 2019

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Merideth Bisiker, a Certified Money Coach. We talk about money, taxes, and what to think about when you are an entrepreneur.

About Meredith

For the past 25 years, Merideth Bisiker has been working in banking, finance and accounting…and loves it! As Payroll Compliance Practitioner (Canadian Payroll Association), she is currently pursuing the Chartered Personal Accountant designation.

Merideth is passionate about the stories that “the numbers” tell her clients and provides up-to-date information that allows them to make confident decisions. And as a Certified Money Coach (CMC)®, she’s able to support her clients as they implement changes in their businesses that feel equally exciting and daunting. She especially enjoys working with creatives who aren’t keen on numbers and reports, and who want a simple yet effective “translation” of the numbers. 

In this episode we talk about…. ”money”….you guessed it! We do specifically talk about business owners & Entrepreneurs and why the money conversation can be very uncomfortable!

I hope that you enjoy our conversation but as always, do note that there is some adult content, so when listening, it’s best to pop on those headphones!

 

Resources

Find out more about Merideth and the work that she does over on her website:

www.pacificrockaccounting.com

You can contact Merideth at info@pacificrockaccounting.com if you have any questions or if you are interested in working with her!

Other resources:

Canada Revenue Agency
Click here to find out more about the Canada Revenue Agency Liason Officer Service.

Your Mental Wealth website by Ted and Brad Klonz

Business Development of Canada

Community Futures Britsh Columbia

Futurpreneur Canada
Click here to view the Futurpreneur Business Plan Writer

Absent Parents

Absent Parents

November 22, 2019

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Erica and Sana from the Systers With A Why podcast. The sisters share their experience growing up in a single-parent household and why they don’t feel the need to look for their father.

Systers With A Why is a podcast where two sisters, Erica and Sana, casually chat about the “Why’s” of life while questioning themselves and others. You can find it on all of your favourite podcast players! In this episode, we chat about absent parents. Both Sana and Erica were raised by their mom as their dad left when they were very young. They’ve never felt a connection to him and never felt the need to find him. Now with kids of their own, they wonder if children should try to find and reconnect with a parent who left.

I hope that you enjoy our conversation but as always, do note that there is some adult content, so when listening, it’s best to pop on those headphones!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources

Make sure to subscribe to their podcast:

Systers With A Why on Libsyn

You can follow Systers With A Why on social media:

Instagram @systerswithawhy
Twitter @systerswithawhy

Reconciliation

Reconciliation

November 7, 2019

In this episode of Uncomfortable, Debbie chats with Chastity Davis, a mixed heritage woman of First Nations and European descent. We chat about reconciliation and what it means both politically and individually. 

About Chastity

Chastity Davis is a mixed heritage woman of First Nations and European descent. A proud member of the Tla’amin Nation, located in Powell River just off the beautiful Sunshine Coast of BC. Chastity strives to keep her sacred First Nations culture, traditions, and values incorporated into her modern-day life. She has dedicated my life to facilitate the building of bridges between Indigenous and non-Indigenous people.

In this episode, we talk about truth & reconciliation, what it means both politically and individually.

I hope that you enjoy our conversation but as always, do note that there is some adult content, so when listening, it’s best to pop on those headphones!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

Resources

Make sure to head over to Chastity’s website to find our more about her work:

www.chastitydavis.com

You can follow Chastity on social media:

Instagram @chastity_davis
Twitter @CDavisConsult

Other articles/reports:

The Indian Act – Wikipedia
United Nations Declaration on the Rights of Indigenous Peoples
National Centre for Truth & Reconciliation
Truth & Reconciliation Commission of Canada: Calls to Action

Indigenous Podcasts:

Unreserved with Rosanna Deerchild, CBC Podcast
All My Relations with Matika Wilbur & Adrienne Keene
Red Man Laughing with Ryan McMahon
Métis in Space with Molly Swain & Chelsea Vowel