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Episode 19 - Moving past the feeling of shame after having an abortion

Episode 19 - Moving past the feeling of shame after having an abortion

April 5, 2019

Gail was 24 when she unexpectedly fell pregnant. She was in the middle of university, wasn’t in a great financial position, therefore decided to have an abortion. Over 10 years later, she still feels regret over her decision. In this episode Gail shares her story and talks to the lack of education around the topic of abortion. 

In this episode I chat with Gail who shares her experience and feelings around having an abortion. Back in 2008 when she was a full-time university student training to become a nurse, Gail fell pregnant. Not really knowing what to do about it she turned to her support network who suggested that she have an abortion due to the fact that she was in school, wasn’t in a financially strong place in her life.

Over 10 years later and Gail feels regret over having the abortion. In our conversation Gail talks about the experience she had with medical practitioners at the time, her regret, and the struggles she felt post-abortion.

This episode is a very emotional one, but this is a topic that needs to move out of the uncomfortable category! If you have gone through an abortion or a miscarriage, please know that you are not along and that there is help out there. I’ll post some resources on our show notes page. Please make sure to take care of yourself during and after the episode.

I hope that you enjoy our conversation but do note that there is some adult language so when listening, it’s best to pop on those headphones!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources:

Post-abortion workbooks:

A Season to Heal: Help and Hope for Those Working Through Post-Abortion Stress by Luci Freed and Penny Yvonne Salazar-Phillips

Living in Color: The Goal of Post-Abortion Recovery by Jenny McDermid

Movie:

Vera Drake - a story of a working-class woman in the 1950's who performs illegal abortions.

Websites & Helplines:

OptionLine - After Abortion Support - they also have a helpline: 1-800-712-HELP and you can use their search function to find centres in your area. 

AfterAbortion.org - they have a list of healing programs and articles.

National helpline for abortion recovery, toll-free: 1-866-482-5433

If you have any resources on post-abortion recovery that you’d love to share, then please add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! 

Episode 18 - Trauma and Intimacy

Episode 18 - Trauma and Intimacy

March 29, 2019

In this episode of Uncomfortable, I chat with Vancouver writer Peggy Liu. Peggy and I discuss how childhood trauma and learned behaviours can affect intimacy and vulnerability in relationships. 

About Peggy:

Peggy is a writer, story-teller, self-proclaimed bibliophile, and mediocre advice-giver. When she isn't digging her way to the bottom of a peanut butter jar or walking around Vancouver with her camera, she's analyzing and over-analyzing relationship dynamics, cognitive and behavioural patterns, as well as her life choices. She recently completed her undergrad in English Literature at UBC, where she was a mental health columnist for the student newspaper, The Ubyssey. You can find her Mind Your Mind articles on The Ubyssey blog. She's currently working on her first book, to be finished when she can stop overthinking her ideas!

 

I hope that you enjoy our conversation but do note that there is some adult language so when listening, it’s best to pop on those headphones!

 

Resources

Feel free to connect with Peggy over on her blog & Instagram:

Website: www.waxmepoetic.blogspot.com

Instagram: @waxmepoetic

Make sure to check out Peggy's articles:

Mind Your Mind: A recipe for self care
Mind Your Mind: Self-care doesn't have to mean Netflix alone
Some Days You Are In Pain, And That's OK
Why Highly Sensitive People May Struggle With Codependency

 

Book Recommendation:

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

Vulnerability & Relationships:

The Power of Vulnerability - Brené Brown
HealthyPlace.com - Relationships Community
Bustle.com - Relationships

Mental Health Resources:

BC Association of Clinical Counsellors
Canadian Mental Health Association
Jericho Counselling
LifeLine Canada Foundation

Got any resources on trauma, intimacy, and vulnerability in relationships that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! 

Episode 17 - Death, Money and Shame

Episode 17 - Death, Money and Shame

March 22, 2019

Andrina Tisi, owner of www.wholelicious.com, is a health & lifestyle coach, yoga teacher & Emotional Freedom Technique practitioner based in Zurich, Switzerland.

In this episode We chat with Andrina Tisi about the shame around money and the emotional toll an inheritance can present. Andrina lost her dad when she we just 15, then her brother just a few years ago. Even though she can live comfortable from the inheritance that was left to her, she would give it all back just to spend another 5 minutes with them. ⁣

Andrina had opens about the emotions she felt around receiving an inheritance when her dad passed away and how it brought a lot of guilt and shame. We also chat about how money, regardless of circumstances, can solve problems, create problems and bring about strong emotions and feelings.

Please note that this episode contains adult language. We recommend you pop your headphones on while listening!

 

Resources

Feel free to connect with Andrina over on her website & social media profiles:

Website: www.wholelicious.com

Instagram: @wholelicious
Facebook: @wholelicious
Twitter: @andrinactisi

Got any resources on money and shame that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! 

Episode 16 - Cervical Fluid

Episode 16 - Cervical Fluid

March 15, 2019

In this episode we explore Cervical Fluids. I love this topic and am so happy that I found Jessica Roberts-Farina who is an avid fan of tracking her cervical fluids! We chat about the stigma around this topic and go into detail on the types of fluids and what they can mean.

 

Jessica Roberts-Farina is a communications and marketing professional born and raised in Vancouver. Her journey into tracking her cervical fluid began in May after experiencing a complete breakdown of her health and a decision to take control of her health and wellbeing. When not tracking her menstrual cycles, Jess spends her time dancing, birding, and trying to be best friends with all the dogs in her neighbourhood.

In this episode, Jessica and I get into detail about cervical fluids. Please note that neither Jessica or I are medical professionals. We are speaking solely from our own research and experience. If you do feel that there is something abnormal about your cervical fluid, then please consult a medical professional.

We do get into some graphic details in this episode, and as always there is some adult language so make sure to pop your headphones on! Enjoy!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources

Feel free to connect with Jessica over on her LinkedIn account

We highly recommend the following apps for tracking your period and cervical fluids (again, we are not being paid by either of these companies):

Clue:
www.helloclue.com
Get the app over on the App Store

Flo: 
www.flo.health.com
Get the app over on the App Store

Got any resources on cervical fluids that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! 

Episode 15 - Anal Health

Episode 15 - Anal Health

March 8, 2019

In this episode we explore Anal Health. Thanks to Kerin "KB" Berger Founder of Queer MEDucation who answers our questions specifically around Anal Sex, the risks involved, and how to do it safely.

Kerin "KB" Berger is the founder of Queer MEDucation, a website and podcast about improving the quality of health care for LGBTQI+GNC people. Kerin is a Physician Assistant licensed under the National Certification Commission of Physician Assistants (NCCPA) and the Physician Assistant Board of California. Kerin’s clinical practice includes queer health, sexual health, pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), post-exposure prophylaxis (PEP), HIV care, and dermatology. The Queer Meducation podcast is a series of interviews with medial experts, mental health professionals, students, advocates, community members and allies that are passionate about improving the health and well being of queer people. I highly recommend that you check it out!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources

Feel free to connect with Kerin over on the Queer MEDucation website & social media profiles:

Website: www.queermeducation.com
Make sure to check out the Queer MEDucation Podcast over on iTunes.

Instagram: @QueerMEDucation
Facebook: @QueerMEDucation

The American Sexual Health Association: ashasexualhealth.org

Centre for Disease Control: cdc.gov

Got any resources on anal health that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! 

Episode 14 - The Birthing Story

Episode 14 - The Birthing Story

March 1, 2019

Every parent has their own birthing story. Jackie Chemelli shares her experience birthing her beautiful twin boys Sawyer & Miller and the decisions she had to make during and after the birth. "It's not like in the movies" Jackie assures us. 

Jackie Chemelli is the founder and owner of Lace Brick Design, an adventure lifestyle brand for women. She also recently launched an adventure brand for baby girls: Baby Brick Brand! Jackie loves french fries & foggy forests and she never says no to an adventure! She's a partner to one of Canada’s top western leathersmiths, Ben Forster TFB Leather and a new mom to the coolest twin boys, Sawyer & Miller. Jackie thrives on building community & connecting like-minded go-getters. She loves sharing her obsession with entrepreneurship, her accumulated brand building knowledge, & her passion for a creative life. Working hard each day to find a humble balance in love, life, motherhood, and business, Jackie challenges herself to live her best life in a way that inspires others to do the same!

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources

Feel free to connect with Jackie over on her website & social media profiles:

Website: www.lacebrickdesign.com

Instagram:
Lace Brick Design: @lacebrickdesign
Baby Brick Brand: @babybrickbrand
Jackie Chemelli: @jaclyn_lisa

Facebook:
Lace Brick Design: @lacebrickdesign
Baby Brick Brand: @babybrickbrand

If you are interested in reading about the birthing experiences of other parents then check out this link to thebump.com

And we found a podcast on birthing stories (and more)! Check out The Birth Hour by Bryn Huntpalmer. 

Got any resources on birthing that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! Feel free to share your own birthing story in the comments. We'd love to hear it!

Episode 13 - Loss & Grief

Episode 13 - Loss & Grief

February 22, 2019

Megan is a Vancouver based graphic designer and creative. She is passionately driven and continuously inspired by the power of story-telling and ability to connect with others through shared experiences. At her final year at Emily Carr University + Design she began Of Loss and Grief, an award winning project exploring the ongoing and very personal process of life after loss. Between her personal projects and working at a local design studio, Megan is a front porch and hammock enthusiast, an avid traveler and gallery-goer. She’s a daughter, older sister, friend, feminist, aspiring boss lady!

We talk pretty candidly about loss and grief. If you have lost someone recently then please do listen with care and make sure that you are kind to yourself and take care of yourself during and after the episode.

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources:

Feel free to connect with Megan over on her website & social media profiles:

Website: www.megan-kwan.com

Of Loss & Grief: www.oflossandgrief.co

Instagram: @mkwan.design

 

References to things we made in the episode:

 

Books:

Smoke Gets Your Eyes: And Other Lessons from the Crematory by Caitlin Doughty

What to do when I'm gone: A mother's wisdom to her daughter by Suzy Hopkins

The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho

Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom

 

Got any resources on body positivity that you'd love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we'll add them to this page! Thanks!

 

 

Episode 12 - Body Positivity

Episode 12 - Body Positivity

February 15, 2019

Caroline MacGillivray is the founder of Beauty Night Society, a Vancouver based organization that helps build self esteem & change the lives of impoverished women.

At the tender age of 3, Caroline began to explore a relationship with movement. Ballet, writing, musical theatre, voice overs and acting classes fleshed out her world. In 2000 while researching an acting role, Caroline founded Beauty Night Society based on an interaction she had with a women who needed help. After 18 years, Beauty Night Society, is an award-winning registered Canadian charity. Beauty Night has given more than 50,000 life-makeovers to women who live in poverty. Her efforts have not gone unnoticed: she is honoured to be a 2002 Flare Volunteer Award (national) recipient, Shakti Public Service 2012 recipient, 2010 Spirit of the Crane Gold Community Award recipient, MetoWe Finalist (National), 2 time Woman of Worth finalist and a five-time YWCA Woman of Distinction Nominee.

In addition to wellness and health promotion work, Caroline began teaching classes. Workshops, speaking engagements, dance, qigong, yoga & aerial yoga are some of the offerings she shares. In addition to her work with Beauty Night Society,  Caroline is a Masters in Medical Qi Gong, Yoga Teacher & radio show host.

In this episode, Caroline discusses body positivity and self-care and why it’s so important to look after number 1 (that’s YOU!)

 

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

 

Resources:

Feel free to connect with Caroline over on her website & social media profiles:

Website: www.carolinemacgillivray.com

Instagram: @caroline_macgillivray
Twitter: @qi_salon

Find our more about her amazing work with Beauty Night Society by visiting www.beautynight.org.

Caroline is also the host of two local radio shows Sexy in Vancity and Humans of the Downtown Eastside both hosted on Save on Radio. Make sure to check them out!

References to things we made in the episode:

Caroline mentioned Mike Writing Narrated Blog – where Mike Wright reads out blog posts for those who are too busy to read!

Short guided meditations using apps Calm or Headspace.

Documentary “Petals – Journey into Self Discovery” based on the book “Petals” by Nick Karras

 

Got any resources on body positivity that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! Thanks!

Episode 11 - Anxiety vs Depression

Episode 11 - Anxiety vs Depression

February 8, 2019

It can be difficult enough navigating through life living with one mental health diagnosis. Kirsten Barkved shares her story of living with two. Kirsten suffers from both anxiety and depression. In this episode she explains how one can trigger the other and discusses the things that help her cope – one of which is her adorable dogs.

Kirsten Barkved is a writer who thinks that the best way to solve all your problems is to melt some cheese on them. When she isn’t dismantling the patriarchy, petting as many dogs as possible, or trying to finish her first novel, she is exploring the very complicated, very necessary work of breaking apart the stigma of mental illness in her writing.

Kirsten is very open about the fact that she suffers from both anxiety and depression. During our conversation she walks me through her journey of coping with not one, but two mental health disorders.

We talk pretty candidly about mental health and Kirsten does describe the feelings and experiences that she has so if you are someone who also suffers from a mental health issue then do listen with caution and make sure that you are kind to yourself and take care of yourself during and after the episode.

If you enjoyed our intimate conversation then feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of this page or rate us highly over on iTunes!

Resources

Feel free to connect with Kirsten over on her social media profiles.

Twitter: @kirstenbarkved
Instagram: @keerstun

BC Association of Clinical Counsellors
Canadian Mental Health Association
Jericho Counselling

Got any resources on anxiety or depression that you'd love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we'll add them to this page! Thanks!

Episode 10 - Good Girls Talk Sex

Episode 10 - Good Girls Talk Sex

January 31, 2019
Leah Carey is a sexual communication coach who helps women learn to communicate about sex so they can get what they really want in the bedroom.  She is the creator and host of the podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex.”
 
Sexual freedom is a subject that is deeply personal to Leah because she spent most of her life being a VERY good girl.  She only had sex inside committed relationships and most of that sex was either boring or painful.
 
In 2017 she had the opportunity to leave everything behind and travel the United States on a journey she called her “Freedom Tour.”  Little did she know that along the way she would discover her sexual freedom as well.
 
She is passionate about breaking the silence, fear, and shame around women’s sexuality and pleasure, and redefining what it means to be a “good girl.”
 
You can find Leah online at www.LeahCarey.com, and on social media channels as @IAmLeahCarey.  The podcast “Good Girls Talk About Sex” is available on all major podcasting platforms.
 

Resources

Feel free to connect with Leah over on her website and social media profiles.

Websites:

Podcast: Good Girls Talk About Sex
Website: www.leahcarey.com

Social Media:

Twitter: @IamLeahCarey
Instagram: @IamLeahCarey
Facebook: @IamLeahCarey

Resources:

Dr. Evelin Dacker – www.MakeTimeForTheTalk.com

Sex Positive Resources Vancouver:

Vancouver Sex Positive Society – Meetup.com
Sex Positive Magazine – Vancouver Events

Got any resources on sex positivity that you’d love to share? Add them to the comments or tweet them to us @uncomfy_podcast and we’ll add them to this page! Thanks!